We chat with a lot of people who are feel suicidal, like they don’t want to live any more, that they want to commit suicide. If this is something you are struggling with then you are not alone – many people struggle with this, men, women, young, old, married, unmarried, those who believe in a God and those who don’t. It’s a belief that this world would be better off without you, that you have no hope and no reason to keep on going. We want you to know that there is hope, there is purpose, and suicide feelings can change.

We are all more than just a bunch of feelings, we have a physical body and a spiritual side to us. We really need to think about the whole of us and not just how we are feeling right now. Here are some thoughts on suicide that people have found helpful…

Who have you told about wanting to commit suicide?

Maybe you feel that you don’t want to bother any one with how you are feeling, you might have decided that they won’t be interested, or won’t care – but most people who feel suicidal are surprised just how much people do care when they hear about how low you are feeling. If you are young tell your parents or another older member of the family who you are closer to. If you are older tell someone whose opinion you respect – a friend, a church pastor, a relative. It would also be really good to talk to your doctor about how you feel because sometimes the reason you are feeling like you do can be because of a physical chemical imbalance that can be greatly helped by taking some medication for a while.

Don’t trust the feelings

Feelings are lovely when they are going the right way, but they are not a good test of what is true. People can sometimes wake up one day feeling low, and then wake up the next day feeling more positive – but nothing in their life is different, all that has changed is their feelings. Feelings can often trick us and so we have to look beyond feelings to know what is true. Even if you struggle with believing this – it still is true! The truth is that there is a purpose for you here on earth and there are so many people whose lives you could help and change.

Think about the spiritual you

Do you believe there is a God? Have you ever spent time trying to learn about who Jesus is, what he did and why he did it?

When people believe that Jesus loves them and is interested in them it gives them a bigger picture of the world around them and of what life is all about. It can give you a new hope and a new focus outside of yourself. The more you get to know Jesus the more you will want to please Him and make a difference to people in this world for him – this can become a great motivation to keep on going. Jesus cares about you – he wants you to know his peace and his acceptance and forgiveness. He wants you to know Him – Find out about Jesus.

Trust other people

When your mind and feelings are playing games with you – you need to remember that there is a possibility that someone else can see your situation more clearly than you are… the way you are seeing it might not be the truth – others might be seeing what is true and maybe all you can see and feel is not the truth.

You will hurt so many people

Some people think that nobody would miss them if they went, and that everyone would be better without them – but this is completely wrong. When someone commits suicide great hurt, upset, pain and damage is caused to those who knew them – your family and friends suffer so much.

Give yourself a new focus

Think about who or what you would like to make a difference to if you weren’t feeling so sad and low. Your one life could help the lives of 100s of other people or 100s of animals – you could have an aim to get well enough to volunteer, or to try and raise money to help. You might not be able to cope with doing it now, but have it as an aim, a new focus, something that is outside of yourself is much more powerful than just trying to get better for you.